There comes a time when one becomes tired of the obstacles one must deal with when continuing to work on a one-sided family or friend relationship. A lifetime of being the one to write, call, visits, they “use” you and then they return to their “entitled” selves. An on and off family or friend relationship that “finally” becomes a chore to continue. The term “you have to love them, as in family”, maybe… “But you don’t have to like them” or “continue to have something to do with them. It is time to move on, but first some thoughts…
Trust your instinct about one-sided relationships, not the words that come from the “users”. You are not obligated to make continuous “start over’s” when these people do you wrong, give yourself a new start and ending, be bold. Their “Faith” does not have to be your faith. The entitled relative or friend has no real pride, it is false, they have had everything given to them in life and continues to expect more. You do not have to bear the weight of their crisis of the day that turns into a joke tomorrow. Give up, accept final defeat, you need to stop extending that “olive branch” when you have been shunned, mistreated, or was always the giver while they take. This type of relationship is not cracked it is broke!
“It takes years to learn to move on to understand that you were not in the wrong. Hope for change in this type of person is overrated and outdated, reality needs to be fully awake and aware, leave the past behind and their hypocrisy. You have been kept too long on the “family or friend hook”; their manipulation gives them power, the “I will call you, so you do not call me as I may be busy” needs to end.
Hypocrisy is the claim or pretense of feelings, behaviors, characteristics that one does not in fact have, these people have false acts and their motive is for gain. Failing to perceive and condemn faults of their own is their real normal. These people, these human beings misuse others and justify their own behavior. Evil is not uncommon, it is every day. Hypocrites believe that they are good, that they are innocent, and the victim.
My decision going forward as I do not have time to form lasting relationships, give no more chances or favors to the present “users”, my rule only. It is my life, it is worth living without constant conflict, the emotional pain these people impose should nourish your courage, the time comes when…”SAYING GOODBYE TO THESE PEOPLE MAY BE YOUR ONLY SECOND CHANCE”.