Living and Breathing a Patchwork Life…
Life is a succession of achievements and failures, gains and losses, one foot ahead…two behind, saying hello and goodbye; the final good-bye leaves wounds that will never heal. We must walk alone in our grief, yet it is universal. Birth, death, reality, to experience life one must expect final good-byes! As humans, we easily forget or do not take into account many of our losses in life.
A mother experiences pregnancy, but does not feel the loss of being pregnant until she realizes she has given birth to her last child. Parents naturally take care of their babies, young children, teen-agers, but does not feel the loss as the years go quickly into having adult children; then they realize the house is empty…where did the years go?
I believe that we do not realize it at the time, but all of these disregarded little losses have prepared us for the major losses we will experience throughout our lives, the final good-byes. Family and friends taken from us, young and old, there is a time for everything, a time to be born and a time to die (Ecclesiastes); we are never prepared.
It is essential that you remember that healing may take a life time; give yourself permission to grieve, to hide away, to remember, to cry, to smile, there is no set point in time when you are expected to heal!
I will continue to write my poetry as it has gotten me through many dark days since my child’s death and it has taken me four years of grief too finally express my collective feelings about the contents of these four paragraphs, this expression of my loss in writing will be ongoing in my blog.
My heart must look like a patchwork quilt, it keep breaking apart and I keep trying to mend it piece by piece, I hope my experience, my words will help others in some small way with their own losses throughout their lives.